« Zawahiri-Zarqawi agree - 'Either you're with us, or you're with the terrorists' | Main | To the 'it was staged!' rabble »
October 14, 2005
Busy busy busy!
Or, as grandma would, say "I'm busier than a one-armed paperhanger."
Siobhan is done with mid-terms and is flying down to spend the weekend with us. To that end the house will be full, especially Saturday as all gather here for noshing and chatting (and watching USC v Norte Dame --- hmmm, is there anybody who takes exception to ND using the Irish as mascotts?..sorry I digress). I've got Halloween costumes I'm trying to sew (oooo... watch out, a few gender-feminists are now sharpening their harpie knives) and just the normal Friday evening of babysitting the twins.
Yikes.
I'm working on a essay coming out of the very involved discussion in the comment section of a post by Jill at Feministe. Via Jeff Goldstein, Jill had an interesting post about about domestic violence in Saudi Arabia, but ended the post with the usual gratuitous Americans do it, too tedium. What I took away from the hoohaw is a desire to write about how so many of the commenters at Feministe were all about bashing anyone that disagreed that The Patriarchy in America is the reason for any ill that befalls women. One particular commenter wouldn't even brook the notion that women can be violent against their partners. I found such a position rather fascinating, and following the link to that commenter's own "livejournal" I noticed she was a "feminist" in about the same way a Kluxer is part of the "civil rights" movement. More to follow.
In line with that, take a moment to read Mieke's post I am the Bored Elite Bull in a China Shop. IMO, I think she was a little out of line in her approach, but I think she makes some valid cultural points. My personal social beliefs are closer to hers, but if someone wants to live differently, they are happy doing so, and nothing immoral/unethical/illegal is going on -- hey, whatever floats yer boat, I won't try and change ya. Oh, I'll give you an opinion if you ask for it, but I'm not about to make you stop doing what gives you pleasure.
Posted by Darleen at October 14, 2005 12:39 PM
Comments
I have a question, clearly I hit a nerve with my post. Do you think the reaction would have been different if I had posted about it on my blog as the conversation was happening, much as you did here?
I got a lot of emails about violating privacy, but I don't see it that way when the original conversation happened in public. If it had really dismayed K she had total control of it, she could have ended it, emailed me privately as she has done in the past, deleted it, any number of options were open to her.
It wasn't as if we had a private conversation about all of these things and I wrote about it and then linked to her blog.
I sincerely didn't think and still don't think there is a privacy issue when something is already public. Do you? In MY post all I did was reiterate the conversation and facts from the original conversation and then add my opinion and questions.
I get that you didn't like my approach either. As I have said over and over it is a hard lesson I can't seem to get about tredding to heavily where I shouldn't, but on the privacy issue, what are your thought?
Posted by: Mieke at October 14, 2005 07:47 PM
Oh no, I don't think it is a privacy issue at all. After all, it was K who on her blog did the throw away line about why she felt she couldn't attend the shower. Anything you blog about is fair game for comment. If she felt it was getting a little too hot in the kitchen she could have easily closed the comments.
And my criticism with you isn't over substance but presentation only. I do think you were a bit of a bull in china shop..but "elitist"? Naw.
;-)
Posted by: Darleen at October 15, 2005 07:57 AM